Sometimes they feel broken beyond repair. Often people come to couples therapy not realizing that there is hope.
I want to assure you today that there is hope.
Lets face it. No one gets married thinking that they will be bored, annoyed, frustrated, and growing apart from their partner. Everyone chooses to get married because they want to experience companionship and closeness and that together forever feeling.
That relationship where Someone got you. Someone knows what you need without asking, who can make you feel like all the worries in the world were dwarfed by the size of your love. Someone who understood you intuitively. Someone you belonged with.
No you weren’t naive. You knew that relationships take work and you were prepared to make the effort. You knew that the way you gave and expressed love might change over time, but you didn’t expect it to change quite so much,
But you never imagined this
The cold shoulders; the empty bed; the lack of support; the loneliness. You’re sitting there ugly crying in the bathroom, the door locked, your kids watching TV down the hall. You have a major presentation at work tomorrow. You’d told your spouse you needed some extra time to prepare, and could he help out with dinner and the laundry? But there was no dinner on the table when you got home, and the clothes remain in dirty heaps on the washroom floor.
The negative thoughts run circles ’round your head:
“No wonder I find so much comfort from work, people there actually think I’m valuable.”
“This marriage leaves me so unfulfilled. I feel like I don’t even exist.”
“I guess I’m just going have to rely on myself from now on.”
“I’d probably be better off alone anyway.”
But when the anger fades, the dust settles and the cynicism clears, you’re still left wondering:
“When did this happen? When did we stop being a team?”
You know your marriage isn’t over, but when you think about it …
You’ve been allowing your troubles to dictate your life for too long now. You’ve been avoiding your friends and family and you don’t trust your partner to fulfill your needs anymore.
Guess what, you are not alone and it’s not your fault. I know because I see couples every single week who think they are broken because they couldn’t make their marriage work they want they thought it should. No one talks about this right, we have such a warped public perception of what a healthy vibrant relationship is supposed to be.
We never know what’s actually going on behind closed doors in any marriage. So many couples sleeping in separate bedrooms, fighting in front of their children; living without intimacy. And so many couples aren’t getting help. They just continue slogging through the bitter cycle of disconnection and resentment. There is a better way.
There is a way where
- You will regain the connection you had in your marriage before the stress drove you apart.
- You will laugh together again.
- You will enjoy each other’s company again.
- You will be partners again.
- You may fall in love again.
More About Me
I’m originally from Latvia and currently call Virginia Beach home. I’m a Master’s level clinician, a Licensed Professional Counselor and a National Board Certified Counselor. I am passionate about helping people find connections with their loved ones and I’ve been translating this passion into my work for over five years now.
You can read more here: About Me
What previous clients say about marriage counseling at Solutions Mental Wellness
“Our communication has improved since working with Anna.”
“We can now recognize negative cycles and talk about them without it turning into a huge fight.”
“Anna helped me see that I can trust him with my feelings and not be afraid to get hurt.”
“Things are just better. There is a lot less tension and more connection in our relationship.”
“Our trust is back.”
What does marriage counseling at Solutions Mental Wellness cost?
We can explore payment options such as Flexible Spending Accounts, Health Service Accounts, and out-of-network insurance benefits. To learn more about specific session
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Your next steps
It is possible to create the kind of relationship that you have wanted. Yes it will take some work and yes I can help you achieve this.
- Image re establishing the connection you had in your marriage before the stress drove you apart.
- Imagine being able to laugh together again
- Imagine enjoying each other’s company and looking forward to seeing each other
- Imagine feeling like a partner not just two people living in the same house
- Imagine that falling in love feeling all over again.